The Vision
This space was built for those whom I have witnessed walking through life with adverse childhood events, many from our adoption community.
Many have reached out for help and found some great healing with psychotherapy, yet sometimes there was still a missing element. For those with developmental trauma, there was an inability to shred those last bits of flashbacks, sensation issues, hypervigilance or dysregulation.
After discovering Somatic Experiencing and having my first personal session, I knew I was on the right track. It led me to also discover Neuroaffective Touch and BASE. Still there seemed to be a missing element with developmental trauma. Then I discovered the Neurosequential Model of Therapeutics, which targets gaps in brain development.
Currently, I am researching and writing a protocol for developmental trauma based on this tool. I am excited to develop this protocol in Parker County as I am passionate about our community and the future generations.
Did you know being a part of a group can help lower depression? It can also teach social skills, negotiation skills, and just be plain fun. Tribes help with the healing of trauma.
Not sure how to get started in finding a group. Some ideas for meeting new people include church, sports, book club, rowing, rock climbing, mountain biking, joining a band, geocaching, martial arts, tai chi, orienteering, running, playing tennis, choir, and more. Finding local activities and giving them a try can be the start to finding your tribe.
Reaching out to join a group is not always natural for me. I am comfortable and enjoy alone time in the outdoors, as much as I do groups. However, had I not risked being outdoors with others, I would have missed some amazing opportunities. Taking a risk with others allowed me to participate in some adventures of a lifetime. It can be uncomfortable to branch out, but you may just find your tribe!
Find Your Tribe
Finding Each Other
According to Polyvagal Theory, a sense of safety occurs when we are in the ventral vagal state of our autonomic nervous system. When in this state of safety, we are flexible and open to connection. It is a state of regulation and peace. This allows us to be open to connection.
How do you get that sense of safety? The first step is to attune to the body-mind connection, tracking sensations and emotions. Next, the state of the nervous systems is mapped and an intervention applied.
This cycle continues until you climb up the polyvagal mountain to a sense of safety. Now the opportunity to reach out and connect is available.
According to neuroscience, telling your narrative with a witness, while in the ventral vagal state, can help with trauma resolution. That is how powerful connection can be.
The goal of the polyvagal protocol is to experience a sense of safety in everyday life. With practice, you can rest in this state, allowing for the possibility of connecting with others.
"Fire can warm or consume, water can quench or drown,
wind can caress or cut.
And so it is with human relationships;
we can both create and destroy,
nurture and terrorize,
traumatize and heal each other."
— Bruce D. Perry
